2.20.2009: Wisconsin Vacation

Alright guys..

Time for a little update on the ex-fiance situation. I don't remember if I've told you his name yet or not. He goes by Tito.. It'll be a lot easier to say that than "ex-fiance" everytime. I was at work on Saturday night when I got a text alert from my facebook account saying I had a message from Ryann. A few weeks ago, I sent her a message trying to work something out with her. I've known her since 5th grade and never had a problem with her. Once Tito and I broke up, she became best friends with him and decided to stop talking to me. Personally, I don't like people thinking poorly of me, especially over something I didn't do or had no control over. She basically told me to go to hell and she didn't want to talk to me. So I left it alone. Then this message that I told you I got an alert for, the first thing that "she" said was that she was thinking about what I said and she was willing to hear both sides of the story. She wanted my number so she could call me and we could talk about it over the phone. My response was that because she was so close to Tito and he had a tendency to abuse my number by sending me nasty texts and phone calls at all hours of the day and hand it out to others to do the same, I was not going to give it to her. Instead I told her, if she wanted to work this out, we could talk about it over facebook or before/after class (we have a drawing class together). The next message I received was Tito confessing it was him and that if I didn't return all of his military equipment, he and Sergeant Welsted were going to "take legal action against me". He was rather snotty, stuck-up, and cocky in this message. When we first broke up, I gave Tito a week or two to grab his stuff from our house. He showed up once with two cars and grabbed a whole two boxes of stuff. I grew sick of looking at his stuff so I took an initiative and did something about it. I boxed all of his military gear and drove it to the armory. About four or five guys helped me unload his stuff. I knew there were things missing but I returned everything I had in my possession of his. So anything that was missing, was because he lost it. Not me.

Tuesday night, while I was at work, I got a phone call from a number I didn't recognize. I let it ring and a minute later I got a voicemail. I snuck into the bathroom and listened to it. Can you guess who it was? Nope.. not Tito. Sergeant Welsted. He told me that if I didn't return all of Juan's (Tito) belongings, that he was going to take legal action and to give him a call back. So I did. He didn't answer but called me back a little bit later. I answered the call and he talked to me about Juan's belongings. I told him I didn't have any of it. That I returned everything I had of his. I told him he was more than welcome to search my house despite the fact I didn't have anything. The Sergeant told me I was already breaking the law by not allowing Juan access to the house to get his stuff. I corrected him on this and told him the only time he was not allowed to get his stuff was when no one was home. Seems like a legitimate reason to me seeing as you don't allow anyone in your house when you're not home. Then the sergeant went on about it and asked me if I realized this was a federal offense.. witholding Tito's army equipment. He was kind of threatening in the way he said it too, like he already knew they were going to find something. I told him I was well aware of that and then I told him once again that I did not have anything. He told me that he was going to get a search warrant and they would search after that.

The next day, before I left for my out of state vacation, I stopped by his unit and had another nice chat with his more direct sergeants. I gave him an update on the situation. He reassured me that they were not allowed to search the houses because Juan had already signed and put his hand up saying he lost his equipment. So basically.. he's SOL.. unless he, personally, wants to take action against me. But the unit cannot. I told the sergeants that they were more than welcome to search my house because I had nothing to hide. My only concern was that this voicemail and phone call were valid. I just wanted to make sure it wasn't Tito putting someone up to this. I also filled another sergeant in a little bit more on the situation. He asked why Juan was so mad at me so I explained a little more to him. I told him he basically lost everything.. his house, his car, his shelter, everything. But he was the reason he lost it. I paid for everything.. the rent, the car payment, the food. He sat on his lazy butt and played video games all day while I was a full time college student and still pulling 30-35 hours a week at work. That's almost a full time job. Tito's sergeant told me he'd be giving "Little Juany" and Sergeant Welsted a call. He was going to tell Sergeant Welsted to stop contacting me.

On my way to Wisconsin, I was talking to Tito's last ex-girlfriend, Noelle, about this whole thing and she filled me in a little bit on her end. She told me Tito sent her a text and gave her a phone call. In this phone call, he apologized for me "dragging her in" and that I only did it because one of my best friends, Dani, wanted nothing to do with it. Dani is in a hard position because Tito is living with her fiance. Earlier that day, Dani wrote to me on facebook telling me to disregard her saying that because she was "SICK of Tito". Noelle told Tito that if you mess with one of us girls, you mess with all of us. He said I was only angry because Tito was pressing charges on me. It's funny because.. whether he knows it or not, he's unable to press charges on me. I'm winning this battle as well as any more to come. He can't beat me. Noelle told Tito that she didn't like the things he was saying about me on facebook and that it needed to stop. He eventually ran out of things to say and was quiet and hung up.

I haven't heard anything more about this whole situation but I'll let you know if I do.

Other than that, I'm just having fun in Wisconsin. Haven't really done much. I went to a basketball game last night. It's just nice to escape from everything for awhile. So far it's working pretty well. I get some time to just relax and not worry about so much.